Building a Home and a Marriage

marriage heart ringWhen seeking to begin or rebuild a marriage God must be the starting point. God has to be the foundation of a home and a person’s thinking; then you can address marital issues.

Eph. 2:20-22 says, “built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Christ Jesus himself being the cornerstone, 21 in whom the whole structure, being joined together, grows into a holy temple in the Lord. 22 In him you also are being built together into a dwelling place for God by the Spirit.”

Ask yourself, will the Gospel be your all and all in your heart and home? Your marriage and family must have Christ as King and Master. The better you can daily imitate Christ, the stronger your marriage will be. The more Christ rules your home, the more it will honor the LORD.

Becoming Christ-like in your marriage is key. A hypocritical example will never serve to help you build a God honoring home. We should practice being truthful and repentant over our sins. That will go a long way in building a marriage.

We must acknowledge our constant need for the Savior; to help us turn from sin, confess our sin, and trust Christ to cleanse our heart from sin. Only Jesus can transform our hearts so we can strive to model Him in our home.

One practical way to be Christ-like in our home is to develop a servant’s heart. There is no better way to be godly than to seek to serve your family. Mark 10:45 says, “For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”

But building your marriage and home on Christ goes beyond personal growth; it also means encouraging others in your home to live for God. Teach them, show them, encourage them, and equip them to live a life that honors the LORD.

Your kindness to your family will make more headway than being critical. The reason for this is because kindness resembles the Gospel. Romans 2:4 says, “Or do you presume on the riches of his kindness and forbearance and patience, not knowing that God’s kindness is meant to lead you to repentance?”

If the Gospel is to take center stage in your home then it won’t happen by just attending church. The Gospel has to be a regular topic your family talks about. Christ has to be foundational in all you do together as a family.

Is Christ LORD in your heart and home? In what ways can Christ take center stage in your heart and home? Pray together as a family asking the LORD to be sovereign and supreme in your heart and home.

Colossians 1:18 says, “And he is the head of the body, the church. He is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead, that in everything he might be preeminent.” This means Christ is first, He is the highest in rank, He is exalted above all! I hope that is true in your heart and home.


LORD, thank You for my family. Help me to love them as You sacrificially loved the  church. May You be the basis of our life, thinking, and home. I cannot build a home without Your help and grace. Make my heart Your home. Grant me the grace to rely on You and look to You as my LORD and Savior.

Help me to model You, serve like You, and encourage others to trust in You. Help me to lead my family in lots of discussions about the wonder of Your power and grace! In Christ name I pray, amen.


About Pastor Douglas Graham

Dr. Douglas Graham started MadeToFish in 2007. MadeToFish is about "Growing and helping others grow in the Gospel." Doug is the Pastor of Cedarville Nazarene Church. Our church website is:
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